Safe, sane and consensual

In the BDSM community, safe, sane and consensual (SSC) are common principles guiding relationships and activities.

The principles are that BDSM activities should be:

Most attribute the term SSC to David Stein, who coined it in August 1983 for GMSMA. In his essay entitled Safe Sane Consensual: The Evolution of a Shibboleth, Stein states that the term was created "to distinguish the kind of S/M I wanted to do from the criminally abusive or neurotically self-destructive behaviour popularly associated with the term 'sadomasochism'."

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