Caecina Paetus

Caecina Paetus was a Roman citizen condemned to death on a charge of disloyalty by the emperor Claudius in 42 AD. When the sentence was handed down, it was determined that he would be allowed to kill himself rather than face the emperor's wrath. However, when the time came, he wavered in his resolution to do so. His wife Arria stabbed herself first in order to give him the courage to do this and handed him the dagger saying "Non dolet, Paete!" ("It doesn't hurt, Paetus!")

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